I opened a new safe deposit box at a private bank instead of using the one my family had used for generations, and I began keeping a written log of every odd remark or missing item.

It started with a silver pen from my desk and then a photograph of the beach house that had been moved slightly on the shelf as if someone had been looking at the back of it.

Julian noticed none of these things because he was in love, or at least he was relieved that Simone had given his drifting life a sense of shape and schedule.

“She is really good for me, Mom, and she makes me want to be a better version of myself,” Julian told me once during a lunch where he seemed particularly defensive.

I looked at him and replied, “No one truly makes another person better, Julian, though they may inspire or demand it, the actual work always remains yours to do.”

He rolled his eyes the way he had when he was sixteen and said, “This is exactly why I do not tell you things because you always turn everything into a lecture.”

I changed the subject because I knew that truth is often a seed rather than a hammer, and I simply needed to wait for the right time for it to grow.

Simone became very attentive after the wedding, calling me every Sunday to check in and bringing expensive flowers to my apartment that never quite fit the style of the room.

She sent me articles about the emotional freedom of simplifying possessions and used the phrase “the next stage of life” often enough that I began to hear the outline of a campaign.

“You have so much to manage in this big apartment, Martha, and it must be absolutely exhausting for you at your age,” Simone said one afternoon while sitting in my living room.

I looked at her and replied, “It is not particularly exhausting, as I have always enjoyed the process of managing my own affairs and my own home.”

She smiled and said, “Still, I hope you know that Julian and I would never let you feel alone in any of the challenges that life brings your way.”

I kept my voice warm as I replied, “How very thoughtful of you,” while I watched her eyes pause on the Japanese ceramic vases arranged on my mantel.

The tea began about a year after the wedding when she arrived one afternoon with a thermos, claiming she had found a special herbal blend for sleep in a wellness shop.